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IBS – A real 💩 sh*t situation

This isn’t the first time I mentioned IBS, and I’m guessing it also won’t be my last time writing about it. My previous post Fibro – A life-long challenge mentions it shortly. I call it a “light” version. This is how my specialist called it after I explained the symptoms and how often they occur. He didn’t say it meant my pain or difficulty would be less. He said I sounded a wee bit in control of it, which could make it a bit better to handle. And I think he’s been right, as my amount of bad accidents, fortunately, is low.

But when the IBS hits me, I get struck hard and I struggle a lot. It usually takes 8-12 hours before my bowels are so done that I slowly regain some control again. I need tonz of energy to cope and on bad days, all I want to do is snuggle, be warm and comfortable and snooze until the pain eases of a bit.

Ever since I “got” IBS, I’ve suffered either constipation for days without end (or so it felt), or I’d run empty in a matter of hours. Either way, it’s very, and I mean very, uncomfortable! It hurts so much that I often cry when I’m doing the big number on the loo 😉. I know, TMI but this is an illness that could use a spotlight here or there. No one really wants to talk about poo, no one wants to smell it either. But it’s a normal bodily function and if it’s disturbed by an illness, it can be a very painful bodily function.

Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) is a common, long-term condition of the digestive system. Symptoms can include stomach cramps, bloating, diarrhoea and/or constipation.

The condition is often lifelong, although the symptoms may change over time. With the right strategies, IBS can be successfully managed.

Main symptoms:

The most common symptoms of IBS are:

* abdominal (stomach) pain and cramping, which may be relieved by moving your bowels

* bloating and swelling of your stomach

* a change in your bowel habits – such as diarrhoea, constipation or sometimes both

* excessive wind (flatulence)

* occasionally experiencing an urgent need to move your bowels

Other less common symptoms may also be experienced, such as:

* lack of energy (lethargy)

* feeling sick

* heartburn

The symptoms of IBS can also have a significant impact on a person’s day-to-day life and, as a result, some people may experience symptoms of low mood and stress.

So, now you know a little more about IBS.

I mostly have the constipation part, sometimes having 3-5 days in between movements. When it does move then, it feels like such a huge relief! But every once in a while, often once or twice a month, my stomach will start making hella much noise! Like a old-fashioned coffee pot, almost coming to its brewing end. My tummy feels like it’s slowly getting ready to explode. And well, in a way… It kinda does. A whole lot…

And you’d think it would hurt less than the constipation but well, it still hurts in a different way. And during the days where this happens, it’s harder to leave the house.

A few days ago I had the quick version and after that, I went to the gym. Thinking I was empty and I could focus on my fitness. But while I needed to use pressure to use my muscles, I was afraid of my tummy turning. So I left earlier and when I got home, I visited the loo again… 😔 It really sucks to have such an invisible illness.

Plus the gas and winds that blow at times… It’s so embarrassing when it happens when other people are around. I already hate it when I’m alone, as sometimes I’m scared more than air may come… 😭

Living with IBS sure isn’t easy. I guess no illness is really easy, you can learn to cope, to manage it, to deal with it. But it’s never easier than not having a damned illness.

So thanks Fibromyalgia for this extra fun symptom that I could add to my “chronic health problems” list 😔.

Invisible illness can be such a stressful thing. Painful. Hopeless at times even, especially when it’s chronic. And many times, the invisible ones are not talked about a lot. Shame? Perhaps… But I also feel like these days, we need to be tough. We can’t show weakness when it’s easy to hide it.

What I mean?

Well, you break a leg, you get a cast. You get a wheelchair and crutches. You maybe get sick leave from work because you can’t travel or do your job otherwise. It’s visible. It’s easy to understand. It’s not gross to talk about. And there’s no “shame factor” added to it.

But when you have something that’s not clearly visible, or easy to understand, people often seem way less understanding. And I can tell you, dealing with invisible illness and people not taking it seriously because it is invisible… It hurts. Maybe even more than the illness does.

We don’t want to complain. We don’t want to be a bother. We want to be just like anyone else. But, in my case with fibro and IBS, if I have a bad day, I’m in a lot of pain. I’m at risk of sh*tting my pants if I’m not fast enough. I’m crying either in bed, on the couch, on the toilet. Never in public. Am I ashamed? Not really. But after all these years (and tears) I’ve learned that it’s my battle. It’s invisible. It’s not something people easily can comprehend so they brush it off when they can… It sometimes feels like you’re being punished by others because you’re in pain/discomfort. It hurts. A lot. Mentally and physically.

So I hope people who know someone that battles with an invisible illness, please take them seriously. Please listen to their needs. They don’t want to be a burden, but they may need some help to get through a bad day. Your kindness could make it possible for them to make it a decent day. Your help could make the difference. Your understanding, your real interest, could be just what they need. Don’t look away, don’t laugh it off because you can’t take it seriously because it’s invisible… Please. Take a moment, think about the illness and how it would make you feel. And act kindly.

Thank you!

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  1. Yes, there definitely needs to be more respect for invisible illness and the wide range of different problems it can cause for people. And it’s not just regular people that need to take it more seriously – a lot of doctors fall short in that area too.

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    1. Ow yes, I totally agree! Some doctors are very easy and just brush everything aside because something isn’t directly visible or measurable… I know some people complain quickly, but people with (chronic) hidden illness don’t “just” complain. We often walk around much longer because of the way people act at us, not believing us, saying there’s nothing wrong….. It helps so much if people take it seriously and not just call us a lazy bunch of winers 😔… So yes to taking more about it. And to doctors who are willing to put in the research to take their patients complains at heart. 😊

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